The address label incident

I went to our desk here at home yesterday to fetch a few return address labels for some bill payments I was preparing to send out. I had a whole roll of "Fred and Jackie" ones and a few Fred Miska ones. So I figured I'd send the Fred Miska ones and toss the "Fred and Jackie" ones - after all, that's what you should do in a situation like this, right? But as I started to do it, the tidal wave hit. I couln't just throw 17 years of "Fred and Jackie" away. I doubled over crying and coughing. Later when I talked to my friend Bruce who has been where I am now, he said there is no rush, no timetable for doing these things. If it hurts too much, don't do it. He said, you might even want to go retrieve that roll of labels out of the waste paper basket. I've got to be gentle with myself, listen to my heart and not be directed by too many 'shoulds' during this grieving process.